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November 5, 2010 by admin

In my work as a forensic psychologist I have been involved in hundreds of criminal cases of domestic abuse over the years. Some of them involved the death of one, or even both, of the people in the relationship. I think it is obvious to everyone that by the time couples are using physical weapons against each other, the relationship is in very deep trouble to say the least.

The thing most people fail to realize is that the vast majority of relationship damages are not caused by physical weapons or violence. The damage done without guns and knives kills more relationships than that done with physical violence. And, just what exactly, are these weapons?

Words!

INXS preforms a song that is one of the songs that I really like called “The Devil Inside” and in it they sing about the frailties of people. At one point in the song they sing a line that expresses my thoughts better than I can, “Words as weapons sharper than knives. Makes you wonder how the other half dies.” When they sing that line, they are referring to women, but I think it also applies to men.

Most of us heard way to many times when we were growing up “Sticks and stones can break my bones, but words can never hurt me.” While that is certainly a mindset we should all strive for, it is rarely the truth. Words hurt more people than any weapon ever created by us. The problem is that many people shoot off their mouths when they feel slighted in some way, spraying toxic verbal bullets that they can never take back.

It has been said that one can’t un-ring a bell that’s already been rung. This is just as valid with respect to verbal abuse. You can’t fully undo the harm of a hurtful rant. An apology is rather like a bandage on the wound, which helps it heal properly but can’t eliminate the eventual scar. The pain you inflict with words may not be have the visibility of an actual cut, but can run just as deep.

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– Eric Menzies

Parents Must Always Be On A Look Out For Teen Drug Abuse

July 14, 2010 by admin

For most of us, it is quite daunting to think about teenage drug addiction. The statistics reveal that majority of teenagers have been involved in at least some type of drug use even prior to their high school education. The younger the child is when they begin testing and experimenting with drugs, the higher the chance is that they become addicted and end up in some type of drug rehab facility.

Parents should be the front line in any move to combat drug addiction among teens and they can do so much to prevent their teen’s involvement in any type of harmful drug. But this does not happen in most of the cases. Parents are considered to be the most important people in a child’s life and they look up to them as role models. If parents abuse drugs, teens are likely to abuse drugs, too. If they become irresponsible there is a great probability that their teen will be like them also.

The teenage years are inclined to be a period of great emotional turmoil as it is the transition from childhood to adulthood. As they undergo this crucial stage in their lives, a lot of issues such as peer pressure, search for identity, romantic and family relationships as well as school performance beset them. It becomes a common option for teenagers to resort to drug abuse to get rid of such issues. Teen drug abuse has actually become a prevalent phenomenon. Statistics reveal that majority of deaths in individuals in the 15-24 age bracket are attributed to alcohol or drug abuse. Likewise, criminal acts committed by teens can be accounted for by teen drug abuse as well.

Parents should be on the lookout for physical signs like red eyes, nagging cough, irregularities in eating and sleeping habits. They should be suspicious when their teens start to have a change in their behavior and attitudes. Deteriorating school performance, becoming irritable and aloof to family members are also warning signs. They tend to suffer from anxiety or panic attacks, chronic bronchitis and chest colds, paranoia, hypothermia, muscle tension and many more. Teen drug abuse can ruin personal and family relations and can be a harrowing problem to parents.

It is essential that drug abuse by a teenager be prevented by providing emotional security, guidance and education by the family. It is also wise to seek advice and assistance from professionals who are equipped with the needed expertise to provide guidance counsel and treatment to your teen.

Words That Destroy Relationships

Parents Must Always Be On A Look Out For Teen Drug Abuse

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